If you are planning your wedding by yourself (without a planner), friends and family can be a tremendous help in alleviating the stress that small tasks can create. Here is a list of some tasks you might feel comfortable delegating.
- Investigate hotels for out of town guests and negotiate group rates.
- Set up a discount system with the airlines for out of town guests
- Consider favor ideas
- Look into the guest book, ring pillow, toasting glasses, cake cutter.
- Organize address list and RSVP list
- Explore readings and quotes for the ceremony
- Research limousine and any other transportation
- Look at locations for the rehearsal dinner
If you are really comfortable with delegation, you might consider asking your support team to research some of the vendors such as photographers, videographers and bands or disc jockeys. Remember that because you are making the final decision, you are still in control. They're just doing the research.
If you really don't want a wedding (Type C Bride) and you're doing it for someone else (fiancé or parent), ask that person if he or she wants to plan the wedding. But before you offer them the honor of planning your wedding, ask yourself these questions:
- Is this person reliable?
- Does this person share my taste and style? Do I care?
- Do I trust this person to plan my wedding?
If you are truly comfortable handing the reigns over to someone else, then the first thing you need to do is set the date. While we know you really don't want to be involved, at the very least, you should make the final selection on the locations and the officiant.
If you cannot delegate the entire wedding to just one person, then you'll need to go through a few steps before handing over the reigns to friends and family.
- Set a budget (see budget advice)
- Consider giving each family or friend a different vendor or category to investigate. Set a budget for each area so they have a guideline. Then let everyone do their job choosing the photographer, Videographer, music, etc.
You might consider monthly status meetings. It's a fun way for everyone to stay connected about the wedding while spending time with people you love.
